Ano ba talaga ang self-confidence? Ito ay when you believe and trust in your own abilities at alam mong makakaya mong i-handle at mag-move forward even after a failure. Nagkakaroon ng healthy self-confidence ang mga bata when they learn and grow from these moments.
It is also a skill parents can teach to their kids, and could be the secret to them becoming champions in life:
Tip 1: Be honest, believe in them, and celebrate their effort more than the outcome
Naaalala ni Mommy Reya Rodolfo ang panahong dismayado ang anak na si 8-year-old Arkin dahil nahuhuli siya sa kanyang mga kaklase sa isang swimming program. “I avoided ‘sugar-coating’ and told him upfront that he needed to step up,” the mom said.
Pero hindi rito natapos ang pangaral ng mom. She explains: “I balanced this out by saying that if he cannot keep up, it’s okay. The important thing is to do his best at anything. By doing his best, regardless of the outcome, I'd be very proud of him.”
Dahil naging aware ang bata na he needed improvement, naging mas determined siya to practice and master the sport. Nakatulong din ang feedback ng kanyang coach at pamilya sa kanyang pag-improve. Sa huli, nanalo ng gold medal si Arkin sa beginner’s category ng isang mini competition sa kanyang swimming class.
Tip 2: Keep encouraging them, and be present and supportive when they try new things
Mommy Nancy Lapasaran noticed na may interes sa basketball ang kanyang 7-year-old na si Cleo. Pero noong in-enroll na niya ang anak sa isang basketball clinic, napansin niyang nai-intimidate ito everytime hindi niya na-shoo-shoot ang bola.
According to the mom, napansin niya na may pagka-mahiyain talaga ang kanyang anak kaya na lang todo ang pag-encourage niya rito. “I told him to stay focused on what the coach was saying and to practice more. A reward system works as well,” she said.
Isa pang tip mula kay Nancy? Be present! Every time may training si Cleo, minake sure ni Nancy na siya ay present to support and encourage him. “He gets happy whenever he sees us supporting him in every training. He becomes more active and attentive when his coach is teaching,” she explained.
Tip 3: Validate their feelings when they face failure and teach them to learn from it
Naaalala ni Mommy Diane Naval noong umiyak ang anak ni si 7-year old Zenriq dahil wala siyang napanalunang award sa kanyang first karate tournament. Sabi ng anak, malaki at magaling ang kanyang mga opponent, at baka walang chance na manalo siya.
“I hugged him, then I told him na in sports, you will not always be the champion. Sometimes, you will lose, but that’s not a reason to give up,” ang kuwento ni Diane. “It’s okay to be sad and cry when you lose. But, you must stand up again to reach your goal. Use failure as inspiration.”
Thanks to his mom’s words, ipinagpatuloy ng bata ang pagsali sa competitions. Kaya, napaka-proud ni Diane nang sa second tournament ni Zenriq, he won not just one but two medals!
Mommies at daddies, remember that your kids will face self-doubt one of these days. Napaka-importante na you are there to teach them how to overcome it. This builds their self-confidence and brings them one step closer to becoming champions in life!
Stay on the Barangay Nestle website’s Barangay Court page to learn parenting tips and secrets to raising champions in life. Don’t forget to watch the upcoming finale of “My Kid Is A Secret Champion”!
Sources:
https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/
